Our expert says:
I hope your marriage counsellor helped you recognize the difference between him not being able to communicate at all, being able to but not wanting to, and being able to do so, but not in the way you prefer.
IF he spent over 30 K on porn an/or self-help books, that's clear testimony to the fact that neither was actually any use to him.
I know nothing of divorce law, but it sounds bizarre that a wise woman would have to pay hundreds of thousands of her husbands debts just because she didn't run into debt. ( I wonder what would have happened had you also wasted your own funds ? ) Maybe a second opinion would be wise ?
I understand that you will be feeling some stress now, though was he really sharing so much of the burden of raising the kids, house chores, etc., for his absence to actually increase your existing work-load ?
I wonder if the Depression / Anxiety Support group has a group near you which you might find useful in evenings or some spare time ?
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