Our expert says:
Sounds a bit like that song in Chicago, the guy who sings about being "Mr Cellophane" who nobopdy notices !
You sopund like a very nice person, with a social anziety disorder or shyness problem. Over Christmas or maybe sooner, I hope to finish (if only they can stop asking me to take on other extra duties !) the reviews of the self-help CBT books, and there's what looks like a useful one on shyness and social anxiety, which might help you a lot. Have you thought, meantime, of getting involved part-time with a charity of some sort, helping people with problems ? You're not so likely to feel awkward when being useful and helpful there, and also usually meet nice people among fellow volunteers.
Ms Thang and DG are so right abo ut the value of being a good listener. Too many people feel awkward in social settings, because they can't think of something brilliant to say, not realizing how little other people need to hear something brilliant from you -- but if you're a good listener, and make THEM feel brilliant, they'll love you for it.
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