Our expert says:
Divorce support expert
It sounds as though you have had as much as you can take. Unfortunately, most relationship that turn up to be abusive relationships, whether physical or emotional or both, the signs were there from the very beginning but we tend to focus on the promises made or we hope that things will change. The truth is, it never does and most often than not they get worst.
You have a right to be happy. A healthy relationship will not interfere with the individuals right to freedom. If you cannot be yourself in a relationship, it is a toxic relationship.
It does get more complicated as well when we have children in such relationships as children often end up being pawns.
Seek some legal guidance first to establish your legal rights. Are you married in community of property or not? Unfortunately in COP his debts become your debts. Also, since the new children act, BOTH parents have equal rights and responsibilities. You cannot just walk away with your children. They have a right to grow up with both parents being involved in their life unless it is established that they are in danger with one of the parents.
Establish what your fear is about. Would your husband be a direct danger to your and your children physical safety? In this case you should seek a protection order before anything else. If the fear is purely emotional because he has controlled you all these years, assert yourself as an adult and speak what it is that you want.
You have a right to live the life that you want.
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