Our expert says:
To be constantly fighting and even hitting each other is surely a sign of a troubled relationship, but you don't need me to tell you that. SOunds like he is not very competent in making or handling money, and tends to dream of great money-making schemes rather than making or carrying out, realistic plans. Frankly, he does sound like a bad habit, and maybe a habit worth breaking. It doesn;t sound like he adds any value to your life, financially or emotionally, and if he has refused to join you in counselling at FAMSA, then he doesn't want things to change or get better.
Maybe the drug use is the key fault here, and a basis for most of the other problems, and maybe he is scared to see any counsellor or therapist because they would obviously suggest that he stop laying round guzzling drugs, and that he actually stand up, pretend to be a man, and get a job --- any job, at first, and start supporting you and the child.
Aren't you better off staying with your parents for the time being ? You're scared of "the sadness" if you leave him --- but what would you be feeling sad about ? Maybe about facing the fact that he never has been, and never will be, the man you hoped he'd be, so sadness at giving up a pleasant but highly unrealistic dream ? Surely not sadness about losing someone who abuses and hits you, or drugs his way through money instead of being supportive ?
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