Posted by: Worried | 2006/07/30

Conditional love = marital breakdown

My husband adopted my 2 sons 4 yrs agp. Their behaviour not up to std performance not acceptable. He is a perfectionist. Sets very high standards that children struggle to achieve.Children resort to theft both of them. Husband relinquishing control as I (mother & wife) cannot accept the way he disciplines them He feels I want to be mother & father.I have ideas how father should behave. Dysfuncional family to start. He verbally abuses children, swears & screams. Threatens with physical abuse - never happened. Turns his back on kids & withholds love & affection. Blames kids for breakdown in marriage & causing problems. Wants to send them both away. Me - in the middle. love my kids & husband. Feel like I have to choose between. Totally broken. Don't know what to do. Feel pain.

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OK, we're talking obsessive father, verbally abusive and threatening., and evading personal responsibility for the problems he causes, preferring to blame the kids. Can't you persuade him into marriage counselling rather urgently ? Even if he needs to start by seeing it as a way of agreeing on better disciplinary procedures, so long as he gets into a situation with you and a therapist, in which he might be helped to understand how he is undermining you, your chuildren, and even himself

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