Our expert says:
OK, kiki, Co-dependence is a theory not a proven fact, and it's a maladaptive way of behaving, not a disease. Wich is good news, as it is thus more easy to change, in counselling. What you see, to be describing is more like a learned pattern of subservient behaviour, and striving to please someone else, especially your dad, rather than to satisfy your own goals. It seems to involve a feeling that you have to earn respect by studying, rather than realizing how much respect you deserve simply for being the excellent person you already are.
Counselling / psychotherapy can help a great deal to sort this out, especially CBT, the Cognitive-Behaviour Therapy variety.
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