Our expert says:
I'm not really sure what you mean by "all in the head". While co-dependency isn't a formal diagnosis within most major systems, it is a well recognized problem, referring to the way in which some people with a relative or loved one with alcohol or drug abuse problems, behave in distinctly unhelpful ways, which, though usually intended to be helpful, actually make it easier for the person to continue with their substance abuse, and can make treatment very difficult.
Any good psychologist, or any counsellor experienced in working with substance abuse problems, should be able to help you to understand your own role in these problems, and to change your responses to more helpful ones.
If you call AA, they also usually run groups for the families of alcoholics, which could also be useful for you.
To me, when people describe any significant problem as "all in the head" its like saying that appendicitis is "all in the appendix" - where on earth else ought it to be ?
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