Our expert says:
If he believes that leaving you now, as advised by your church would mean he would never come back, then this was not love. Remember that old line about letting him go, and if he doesn't come back then you never actually had him, anyway ?
But discuss carefully with your psychologist, and maybe with POWA or some similar group, how to make sure you are safe in the event of a breakup or simply a temper tantrum on his side.
The core of the matter is that financially he has wasted his resources and relied entirely on you as his provider, and, as you say, he has nowhere to go. The |number of big jobs coming up " may be mythical and face-saving claims.
Be afraid of his potential for violence, but don't be afraid of losing him - nothing about him, as you describe him, would be any genuine loss for any woman.
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