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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Hi to you David, a warm welcome to the forum and thanks for posting.
I'm always intrigued by the way in which we create labels and identities for ourselves and each other, such as 'chubbies' and their admirers, 'chubby chasers'. Yet another way in which we place a definite emphasis on bodiliness and appearance, and develop a crazy social hierarchy that excludes aspects such as personality, interests, ambitions, fears, values, social skills and needs. We often see each other only as physical (frequently sexual) beings, and often 'judge' each other accordingly. What's even worse is that we often value OURSELVES accordingly.
Fortunately we don't all have the same values, interests or preferences and many people see beyond the superficial.
You've somehow been 'programmed' to think that you're not worthy of desire or love, and I'm chuffed that someone has come along and is trying to prove that indeed you are desirable and loveable. Don't play so hard to get :) Take a risk - your sense if that he's being sincere so follow where he leads you and enjoy.
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