Our expert says:
Amazingly, some children experience such ugly episodes without remaining troubled by it, and others retain troubling concerns which cause them misery and limit their freedom to enjoy life. If your experiences have led you to fear sex and avoid relationhips, this deserves therapy to set you free. I believe CBT ( Cognitive-Behaviour Therapy ) is the best way to do this, as analytical style counselling takes forever without achieving anything useful and could make things even worse. Its not useful to dwell in great detail on what precisely happened, as that's much less helpful than some people think --- what's needed is to look atthe assumptions and beliefs, etc., it has left you with, to what extent these negatively impact on your life, and to repair them
You are still a virgin in all senses that really matter, morally and psychologically, even if perhaps not in a strictly anatomical sense. Don't blame yourself for whatever happened to you, and get the help you deserve
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