Our expert says:
Its unfair to expect a reasonable parent, like you, to feel eternally guilty and eternally owing something to their kids, simply because there was a divorce. They may not be wild with joy aboput the move, but there's not the slightest reason to expect it to be at all harmful for them, or to cause psychological problems for you or them. Kids that age like to think of themselves as rebels, but they're actually highly conservative in the original sense --- they enjoy keeping things as they were, while trying to look like and behave like all the other kids, and pretending this is "individual". They can't assume that ballet and gymnastics teachers will be worse in the Cape --- they might even be better. And of course, if you had to stay up here, you'd have much less time and spare funds to spend on their extra-curricular activities, and would have to spend more time travelling down to the Cape for weekends, etc.
Maybe see a famil counsellor to lead a group discussion abou this so everyone feels their point of view has been taken seriously ; but you are the parent and can make a good decision for the best of all of you --- and your own needs deserve to be taken very seriously, after years of deferring to the kids
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