Our expert says:
Something I think many families are finding it hard to deal with is that the age at which children reach physical puberty and maturity is falling quite rapidly, so a kid of 11, which in our day was thought of as a really young child, is now physically similar to what in earlier years might have been a teenager of 16 or even 18.
And they're not quite maturing psychologically and socially as early as all that ; so they're like someone who wake up an find they have a sports car and really don't know how to drive it.
Now with added exposure to more frank sexuality on IV and in movies and online, they can easily form ideas of things that look like they might be fun to try, but again without full ability to handle the feelings that get so easily aroused.
Sounds like you have a good relationship with the boy, and do try to keep that channel open. Congratulations to both of you on achieving that.
I like Maria's point about respecting his privacy and knocking when his door is shit. You don't mention sex education, and whether you and he have had continuing frank discussions bout the physical and emotional changes he will have been experiencing, but do keep this up.
As others have mentioned, this is indeed to be part of an exploration phase, and not to indicate lifelong sexual preferences and patterns, but do chat with him about it, clarifying what he thinks about it. He should feel free to experiment fairly freely in private without feeling he has to commit to any long-term commitment to any particular orientation of style, to be aware of the risks of taking any such interests into the outside world, to be aware that there are people round who might try to exploit him and how to avoid that, and that he is respected, above all.
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