Our expert says:
What you describe certainly sounds emotionally exhausting ! And you seem to have good insight into the nature of the problem, maybe needing some improved assertiveness skills, so you could ask the two sides to spend some of their energies trying to please you, rather than merely trying to be pleased by you.
You sound perfectly normal, otherwise, and many normal folks find little pleasure in the partying and clubbing others seem to thrive on.
You sounds like you do extremely well with counselling. The reason I usally in a situation like this recommend counselling, rather than personally giving detailed advice, is because I sincerely believe that most of the highly generalized advice on issues like self-confidence and communication, is of little real value, wheras a counsellor can rapidly get to know the unique you and your unique situation, and work with you ( very important ) to devise specific techniques you can use , and wich are all the better for you having participated actively in formulating and testing them, rather than merely being the passive recipient of a generalized recipe. Handling difficult relationships is far more complex than making an omelette !
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