Our expert says:
Apologise, consider personal counselling to help you sincerely promise to do your best to never cheat again, respect her right to be furious and hurt, and consider also couples counselling if she is prepared to try to make a continuing future with you.
As Hanah says, ignore the guff that Archbishop Tutu and others preach that imply victims have a duty to forgive people who harm or hurt them. being forgiven is a privilege which you should try to earn but do not deserve automatically.
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