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Posted by: ed | 2004/03/08

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My fiancé caught me masturbating on the couch the other night........she was lank pi$$ed off about the whole thing. She said that I don’t love her..... I tried to explain that it was just a guy thing & it shouldn’t be taken so seriously. This just made things worse & she has now given me my ring back. I just love to know why she has made the whole thing such a BIG issue….. I mean I love her & wanking but now she wants me to choose.......her or my hand!!! I just thought they would both go together......boy was I wrong!!

Anyone been in the same situation?

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Your thoughts raise a couple of issues (no pun intended, either). Masturbation is not mandatory; you may choose not to "beat off" while with your current girlfriend, or future partners, but doing so is far from "silly" or dirty. Masturbating and being in a loving relationship are not mutually exclusive, and many partners in coupleships use self-stimulation as a healthy release of sexual energy -- just as they did when they were single. Solo sex is not a shameful betrayal of one's partner, nor is it reserved for one gender. Instead, perhaps thinking of masturbation as sex, just as other activities, like intercourse, are thought of, will make it seem more like the normal pursuit that it is. If masturbation replaces sex between partners without mutual consent, or if its popularity with one partner leaves the other dissatisfied, then it presents unhealthy circumstances worth discussing. Guilt before, during, and after masturbation is common among "beaters" of all ages, and usually grows from moral, religious, and social doctrine that disapprove of it. I believe that to breathe a huge sigh of relief when you have a new partner because it replaces a need for self-pleasuring may be a problematic philosophy. Why? What happens if, say down the line, your sex life with a partner dips due to an illness, stress, or even travel that separates you? Masturbation can come in handy when a partner's not in the mood, and just because your mate's "away" doesn't mean that your dominant hand shouldn't play.

Partner sex may rocket your space needle, but, remember, it takes many skilled hands to erect an Empire State Building.

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Posted by: confused | 2004/03/22

The other day i wanted to go to the movies and nobody wanted to come with me. Not even my boyfriend. he wanted to stay on the internet becuse we are looking for a new car to buy i was pretty depressed about it. Anywayz i got the time wrong for the movie and went home and i walked into the house and and i saw the shadow of jumping and trying to put his pants on. he was having a wank whilst looking at porn on the net. i still don't know how to feel. i mean he is looking at other women on the net whilst thinking of sexual things with other women. to some extent i can feel what your girlfriend feel.

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Posted by: Qwan | 2004/03/08

Shit mate that must have been a little weard hey ...... got cought in the shower once but with another .... can amagine the feeling ..

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Posted by: ed | 2004/03/08

AKA 47.........she has gone.....thanks for the support guys

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Posted by: AKA 47 | 2004/03/08

ED ,,,,, ur g/f is CHILDISH ... let her go !!!!!!

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Posted by: ed | 2004/03/08

thanks C , I wish she was ok with the whole issue just like you are but I think she has made up her mind......5 years down the drain ......how's that possible?

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Posted by: C | 2004/03/08

She is really overreacting, sometimes my boyfriend like jerking-off in front of me while I play with myself.Sometimes I also masturbate.Is your fiance a prachers daughter????
I' m sorry.When I caught my boyfrien I was also pissed off.But is is ok now.i caught him watchimg porn and that hurt me.

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