Our expert says:
Dear a with e,
it's far too late now for him to do "anything" to get you back --- he should have done "everything" right a long time ago. Of course you're still hurt --- he was and is a bum, and not worthy of you. So there's no question of your wanting him back, surely. If he is harassing you, tell him, in a leter ( keep a copy ) to stop and never to contact you again. If he continues to harass you, see a lawyer or the police, and get a restraining order to force him to not contact you at all.
There's no need to forgive him for his sake --- leave him to stew in the juices he created and make his own gravy.
But it's worthwhile for you to see a counsellor and "forgive" in the sense of letting go of all that bitterness and anger so as to set yourself free for a happy future without him, and without letting those bonds of bitterness tie you to him.
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