Posted by: Blommie | 2008/09/24


Please could somebody try and help me understand how a man can break up without a very good reason after 4 years of serious relationship and dive straight into the next relationship. How on earth is that possible??

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Maybe other readers can oblige. In my experience the answers aren't so global. SO the real question would be why did THIS specific man ( men can be very different from wach other ) break up from THIS woman ( ditto ) in THIS situation. And at a guess, it sounds as though he may have been straying and starting the new relationship earlier than you realized.

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Posted by: blommie | 2008/09/25

Thanks you guys - you are just confirming my suspicions. And Fruit I know exactly what you are talking about - I am also constantly questioning myself and asking where did i go wrong - it' s been 77 days now and I am only now starting to look at things differently. Good luck to you too and thanks everybody for your input.

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Posted by: fruit | 2008/09/25

My boyfriend did the same thing, he used a small quarel as an excuse for leaving me...even today I don' t kow why he left me he doesnt wnt to face me and tell the truth so I assume that he' s dating somebody..It took me long to get over him cause I kept asking myself what have I done, am I a bad person and so on, but thank God im over him and Life goes on.

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Posted by: C | 2008/09/25

Hi there, chances are that he may have met someone 3 weeks before your split and then didnt know how to tell you and then used your quarrel as a means to end the relationship. This is one scenario.

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Posted by: blommie | 2008/09/25

Well one month before he left everything was still perfect - he was so excited about our future. Then we had a quarrel nothing series and then wam bam - he left me. Reason - he is cold and dead for me and never want to be in a relationship with me again.

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Posted by: Ja | 2008/09/25

i think i' m with doc here. Either that or he' s been thinking of leaving for a looong time.

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