Our expert says:
Hmmm. Borderline Personality Disorder can be really difficult for even psychotherapists to deal with, and they handle attachment to others in a stormy and self-defeating manner. I really doubt that there is any plain guide to how to handle such a person. When they storm off it's best to leave them, and see if they return. Trying too hard ( on your part ) doesn't help them much, though it can be very tempting. Telling her you'll be there means very little to her. Being there might get the message across, but she may test you so many times you may very justifiably eventually decide not to remain there for her. She may mock you for being pleasant and unaggressive, but wouldn't be satisfied if you were less pleasant or more aggressive. If you want a calm, loving relationship, you won't have one with a borderline
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