Our expert says:
He sounds like a rather normally annoying teenager, apart from being just 9. And still he sounds much like an average kid of 9 living in an anarchical system with no proper rules and structure.
It sounds like the mother needs to learn that being over-indulgent and failing to provide a child with boundaries and a clear disciplinary system, is actively abusive and always bad for the child.
A child psychologist should be able to help set up a proper system and to plan to implement it - the only snag would be if the irresponsible mother insists on spoling the child her way and won't buy-in the what the child needs.
Even then, it needs to be made clear to the kid that the proper rules apply within your home and he will not "get away" with breaking them, and that there will be predictable rewards and penalties.
Meanwhile, try to catch him doing some things right, and reward those with praise and small rewards, more than shouting at him when he does wrong.
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