Posted by: sad and lost | 2008/01/22


i found some "loving" messages on my partner's mobile from another woman. meanwhlie during the past 6 months he has been rude, verbally abusive and distant. i have made some enquiries and during these 6months there was already some flirting with this woman. when i confronted him, his answer" just having some fun". i cannot forget the contents of those messages, i am hurt, sad and feel worthless. i know deep down what i want/feel like doing, but am i over reacting? he is still distant, does not talk much, almost as if i "spoilt" everything. Please help!!

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If he is within a married or otherwise stable relationship with you, he has no business "just having fun " with anoyone else. WHy not see a marriage / relationship counsellor together ? If not, and if he insists on childishly sulking at having been caught out, seriouslty examine the option of leaving him, and moving on, towards someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve
And remember, you have worth, and it has nothing to do with anything he does or does not do --- its yours by right, not a gift from him

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Posted by: Britty | 2008/01/22

You say that deep down you know what you wan't/feel like doing - go with that gut feeling.

Your man should be making you feel good about yourself not worthless, hurt and sad.

Take care and do what makes you happy and fullfilled.

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Posted by: John | 2008/01/22

Lets see: he has admitted to cheating on you and he is now punishing you with silent/distant treatment because you found out?

Why are you still with a man that treats you so badly? Don't you deserve better than this second-hand treatment? If you stick around then you will only have yourself to blame when (not if) he does it again.

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Posted by: Kelly | 2008/01/22

Gilfriend Get out off there Dont you get it
Do u realy wanna put yourself throu all of that move on there is better things out there

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