Our expert says:
Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Hi mr t
The incident you describe does not necessarily mean that you're gay. It is very possible that this is a matter of two straight guys who were both horny and had some fun, or were experimenting. It happens and it doesn't automatically mean that either of you are gay. Many straight people have had sexual encounters with people of the same sex. I'm surprised you guys didn't have some form of sexual encounter sooner.
I think what's bothering you is that you're having difficulty in coming to terms with the interaction, in that after a week you guys still haven't discussed it. As if it never happened. It could be that he's feeling the same sense of discomfort or confusion that you're feeling - we don't know. Possibly you're trying to find a meaning or context for your sexual interaction, but it won't help you overcome your anxiety about possibly being gay.
Being gay is not about whether you've had sex with a guy or not - its about being emotionally and sexually attracted to people of the same sex, as opposed to people of the opposite sex. You give no indication of your being attracted to him or other men. Relax and focus on completing your diploma if that's what you need to do but at some point - when you're ready - you'll need to explore your own sexuality.
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