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Posted by: Shirley | 2005/07/27

Bad experiences with men

I've had so many bad experiences with men. And to be honest, I've always looked at other girls, not to compare them to myself, but to see them from a guy's point of view. I know that I'm bisexual and have tried very hard to just stay hetero, but now I'm not so sure whether I want to continue this way. What if there's a wonderful girl out there, that will complement me in ways that no guy can ever do? Went on holiday with my best friend (she's a lesbian, but in another relationship), and met up with some other friends of hers that are a couple. It just seemed so great. The way in which they interacted, as if they were one and the same person. I know from my friend that things aren't always sunshine and roses, and another gay friend has shown his girly side to me very often when it comes to his relationships. What do I do now? My ex-bf with whom I have 2 girls (I have custody) will be furious. He might even try to get custody of them. How do I handle this situation? Just go back to try and find a male companion?

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Hi Shirley

Thanks for your posting. You state that you know you're bisexual, but are trying to stay hetero. This sounds like a contradiction. If you're bisexual, how would you try to 'remain' straight? It seems as if you're yearning to be with a woman, but that you're concerned about your ex-boyfriend's response and the custody of your children.

I think you should stop looking at this from a relationship perspective, and rather get some clarity on your sexual orientation. Once you've established whether you're more emotionally and sexually attracted to men or women at this point in your life, you can begin to think about the relationship issue.

Your ex boy-friend cannot have custody of your children taken from you purely on the grounds of your sexual orientation. There's no reason to live a false life. By being content with yourself, you'll be a better mother to your kids.

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Posted by: B | 2005/07/27

Snap, but not looking for a date, trying to show you there are some MEN out there...

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Posted by: Shirley | 2005/07/27

When I look for a date I go to an internet dating site.

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Posted by: B | 2005/07/27

Contact me, I'll show you how a man should treat a lady...

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