Posted by: Faye | 2011/02/07

Anal sex - I detest it!

Hi, my husband and I have a very healthy sexual relationship, however, he has commented that he would like to try anal sex. i am totally disgusted at the thought, and know that I would never be able to go through with it. We have been married 18 years, and never tried it as i am so terrified at the thought. I have had a heamroidectomy (removal of piles) due to child birth and that experience was excruciating. This has compounded my fear of anal sex. How do I get around this? Vaginal sex is quite satisfying to both of us, and my female organs are still the same as it was before I had children, which is why i dont understand why he still has the urge to go the anal route?

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you have to fully express your feeelings to your partner and stand your ground but you need to have a fairly frank and open discussion with your husband as to the the reason for the new found feeling /interest in anal sex .Once explored, issues could be debated and you might be surprised that you might have a very amicable decision in your hands .

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Posted by: ABC | 2011/02/08

If you detest it then just tell your husband so. I see you''ve also written to Cybershrink regarding your husband''s cheating on you. Maybe you think that your husband had anal sex with the " other woman"  and that''s why you can''t get your thoughts around it?
Couples counselling would do the trick. The counsellor will be able to help you guys communicate. He/She will be the " middleman"  and make sure that there''s no " bashing"  of one another. Tell your husband that you guys need to do this.

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