Our expert says:
OK, so he has a major alcohol problem with alcohol abuse ( he'd probably argue about admitting that he's an alcoholic, though that is probably the right diagnosis ) and he needs treatment for this. Maybe he needs to know that his friends might find out he's nowhere near the reat husband and dad he pretends, and that he should stop the pretense, and really become that good husband and father his pretense reveals that he knows he ought to be.
And obviously, he ought to be less lazy and more helpful round the house.
The idea of taking a break sounds good. Maybe if he spends some time with his family, they may discover his drinking habits, and put some pressure on him to seem help ?
Whether you'll get anywhere by more talking to him is hard to guess --- how does he react when you talk to him about such matters ? Can he accept that he may have some problem ? Can he talk about pressures at work, how he feels about becoming a dad and taking on such responsibilirt, and so on ? If so, that route is also worth pursuing.
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