Our expert says:
I'm wondering if this has always been the case, or if this is relatively new. If new, when did it begin and what was going on for you/your partner at that time? Also, is this the case when you masturbate, or just with your parnter?
There are a number of possible reasons for this:
1) if you're on medication of some sort (eg. antidepressants) you could be experiencing a biological delay to your orgasm.
2) distraction/anxiety can interfere with the normal processing of and attention to sexual stimulation.
3) it may be that you are used to different sorts of stimulation (eg. pornography, vigorous masturbation) and the stimulation you receive with your partner is not as intense.
It is common for partners to feel frustrated at not being able to please the other, but if you are clear that it has nothing to do with him/her, then you need to try to make that clear.
The answer lies in understanding it's cause, I'm afraid. If you would like to respond to some of the questions I've asked in order to find out more, please post them in a seperate post this week (I won't return to follow the thread of posts already answered). Alternatively, if you'd like a referral to a professional in your locality, send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org
Claire - SASHA
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