Our expert says:
That's quite an age diffference, though he sounds the less mature. OF COURSE the alcohol contributes to his lying and aggression --- it usually does, and if he had any sense he would realize this and stop drinking. Unless he were sincerely and seriously determined to change, and to work with a therapist for himself, and a marriage counsellor with you, things are very unlikely to change and could get worse. See a therapist / counsellor for yourself, and also a good lawyer. And consider if and when you have planned a separation, getting a court order to forbid him from harrassing or threatening you or the children.
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