Our expert says:
At least you know what his problem is: alcoholism. If he does not arrest this illness immediately, it will get worse.
Before thinking about divorce, you should sit down with him and suggest treatment. He has tried going to AA, which works, IF you work it.
However, if you're just going to sit in meetings and continue drinking on the side, it's meaningless.
He needs urgent intervention and professional care so that he can stop drinking. His alcoholism has progressed to such an extent that he doesn't even care what he's doing to you and your children.
He hates you one day, loves you another, wants a divorce and so forth. These are the insane actions of someone whose life is unmanageable.
You will need to contact a support group as well, as it will help you to speak to other people who are in the same situation.
ALANON will be the best choice, they have meetings all over South Africa. Regarding your husband, contact Ruby on firstname.lastname@example.org or Tel: 021 790 7779
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