Our expert says:
What a terrible situation to be in ! Being there and available to him will be helpful. THough you may wish there was something specific you could say to comfort him, there are no magical phrases to use. Make it clear that you also feel shocked and sad, and that you want to and will be vailable to listen if and when he wants to talk, whether about what happened or about how he feels. Let him know he is free to talk OR NOT to talk, as he wishes. SOme people push too hard to make the sad person talk, or at the opposite extreme, try to ignore it and change the subject if they try to talk about it. Give him time to work through this ; if after a week or two he is still greatly affected, seeing a local counsellor might then be helpful.
Oh, another mistake some people make is to get a GP to prescribe sedative and tranquillizers. Except in unusual situations, this is much less helpful than people expect, and rather tends to "freeze" the grief and stop the person from working through it as they will have to do ; and may even make complications more likely
Keep in touch with us on the forum, and let us know how things go.
The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical exmanication, diagnosis and formal
advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.