Our expert says:
The best advise I can give is for both of you to become aware of your sexuality by reading and studying info on sex, sexuality and the body’s physiology. Please view the following site: www.sexualhealth.co.za
The first step to take in studying your own sexuality is to masturbate yourself and in the process become aware of what you find arousing, sensual, sexy and stimulating. Your husband should do the same. Following this, once you have discovered what turns-you-on, it may be advisable for your husband to watch you masturbate. By him viewing you masturbate, he will know what he should do to stimulate you and in the process learn how your body responds to stimuli. As ‘virgins’ he may be scared to hurt you and may also be illiterate regarding a women’s physiology, but by him seeing you masturbate he can follow your lead.
The second step would be to view sex educational DVD’s together or to read the sex ed books together. After reading them together, both of you will be informed about sex and can even practice some of the sexual positions / techniques together from the vantage point of correct and credible facts regarding human sexuality.
If all else fails, please phone the following helpline for the details of a sexologist in your area: 0860 100 262
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