Our expert says:
Its very understandable that you would feel bad about the fact that he not only cheated on you, but chose to father a child with someone else while you considered that you were committed to each other. How he did it is hardly a mystery, and why is probably not hard to work out, either.
If the anger is appropriate, and if he has not convinced you he regrets what he did and that he is unlikely to do so again, therapy / counselling would ned to be focussed on these issues, and not on simply stifling your anger.
Do NOT marry him unless and until these issues have been properly resolved, as mariage will not solve them at all. You yourself say this relationship is not healthy at all.
And there can be few more doomed and foolish reasons to marry anyone than to try to score points off a rival. If the marriage turns out to be miserable and he continues cheating - wha lesson will that other woman have learned ?
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