Our expert says:
Its hard to be sure what exactly happened in the previous episode you describe. Certainly some people make false accusations of abuse in order to win a squabble or to get back at someone they have other reasons to dislike ; and also there can be situations where abuse definitely does occur and the mother is unaware of it or doesn't want to face up and admit it. Anyhow, it does sound as though the guy in question was abusive towards the mother, if not the child.
Your sister needs to recognize that you and your mother acted responsibly by having the situation properly assessed by competent authorities, and that it would have been the height of irresponsibility for either of you to have ignored the accusations. The mother was not serving her children's best interests in remaining with a man who abused her, herself, and exposing them to witnessing that abuse.
If her daughter is again telling someone that her stepdad abused her ( and it seems even less likely to be a tactic on her part at this stage, as the man is apparently out of her life now ), iot may very well be that she was telling the truth all along. The welfare counsellor was naive if she decided that there was no abuse on the mother's say-so, especially when the mother herself was hiding her own abuse by that man.
The daughter should be advised, whatever happened in the past ( then she said her sister was bein abused, tnow she says it was her ) that she herself ought to see a personal counsellor to work on dealing with whatever was then going on.
And your sister should be told that her personal bitterness towards you is unjustified and will not be accepted, and that no further apologies will be forthcoming. She chose to expose her daughters at the very least to witnessing her own abuse a the hands of an abuser, and should not blame others for having tried to protect her daughters when she apparently failed to do so. And until she has something conciliatory and useful to say to you, let her no that no further communication will be accepted.
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