Our expert says:
A relationship that started in January can't have lasted very long, nor long enough to explain your excessive atachment to it. This suggests that the power behind this longing and attachment probably comes almost entirely from within you, from your need for a relationship, rather than from him, so it is in a way autonomous and able to continue without him. Why should you need to try so desperately to cling to someone so obviously much less interested in you ? Seeing a shrink is an excellent idea, especially a psychologist, to explore the roots of this excess --- maybe including aspects of low self-esteem. This is where I disagree with some other readers --- I'm not sure that he necessarily took advantage of you, though he may have recognized and responded to your neediness. But he had no power over you which you didn't give to him.
And as Lolo reminds us, people who are too clingy or give off the sense of desperation are begging to be exploited, and will never in that way find a genuinely enjoyable and lasting relationship.
And Zola's comments point again to my dislike of relationships basing themselves excessively on electronic communication --- the SMS, the voicemail, and so on. If you can't relate mainy by actually meeting directly, it's a hobby, not a relationship.
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