Our expert says:
If it feels abusive, hurts you and you are in despair, then it probably is emotional abuse --- deciding what's best for you to do about it doesn't depend on an artificial definition. Even if he were not abusive, he sounds like a lazy and selfish slob, who is needlessly ( apparently ) suspicious, over-controlling and intrusive. He sounds insecure and unpleasant, and not fit to be anyone's husband or partner.
WOuld he consider joining you in marriage / relationship counselling, eg through FAMSA ? IF not, the relationship with him is very unlikely to improve, and you should then rather seek personal counselling to work out what's best for you and the child. Also call your local branch of POWA and see what they can provide for you
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