Our expert says:
I have no doubt that you are a good woman, and this selfish narcissist does not sound as though he has your best interests at heart. The behaviour of his mother suggests that he has been spoiled and expects everything to be done to suit him, and that he feels entitled to use other people, maybe especially women.
It is indeed difficult to understand why you still love such a person ; but love is mysterious. Sometimes there's an issue of you having low self-esteem, and being hesitant to believe that you deserve to be treated better and to expect more from a partner. Contrary to his complaints, it sounds as though you do too much for him, not too little. It's clear how much you do for him : what does he actually do for you ? And your family is quite probably right, that he's making excuses to avoid marriage : why would he want to change anything, when it all suits him just fine ?
Maybe you'd benefit from finding a woman's support group, even some personal counseling, to study your options, think through what will be best for you and your child, and gain more self-esteem and self-respect.
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