Our expert says:
Sadly, your experience demonstrates the wisdom of the old wisdom in all cultures of the insistence on getting to really know someone before taking any risk of creating a pregnancy together. It's at times like this that you discover that the boy isn't yet a man ; that it's pathetically easy for a boy to create a child, but hard to be a real father.
You'd want to get legal advice, but I suspect he is legally liable to pay for the maintenance of the child, for the kid's expenses until the child becomes an adult, whether or not he chooses to admit that the child is his, or to maintain a healthy relationship with the child. It may be important for you to have a court order blood tests if necessary, and to declare him the father and responsible for paying maintenance, with the court declaring a fair amount. This may be for the child's benefit, especially as it could be very hard for the child later in life to establish such a claim, when this may be very much needed, It must be recognized as a duty more important than the Big Car,
If you "just let him be" now, he will feel entitled to ignore the child's needs and rights forever, and maybe to create more neglected children in the future.
Similarly, I don't quite understand why you would hesitate to approach his family and tell them about this. As grandparents they would have a right to know and usually would want to know, and the child has a right to know his grandparents and family. Why would this boy want to keep his child secret from his family ?
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