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Let's see what other readers have to say about a situation like this.
It strikes me that one relevant issue may be a relative lack of self-confidence on your side. What sort of relationship do the pair of you have ? How committed are you, to each other ? Is it seen by both of you, as exclusive ?
Your closing comment is indeed relevant : men ( at least many of them ) do look at girls, and almost all the time it means very little more than enjoying the view. I'm sure you may stop at the side of the road at a beauty-spot, and look out across the mountains and enjoy that view, without having or forming any definite plans to buy property in that vicinity. I'm told some women really enjoy looking at wedding gowns, even if thy don't plan to get married. And, as I often point out, many dogs enjoy chasing sports cars, barking confidently, but have no idea of what to do with it if the car stops and they have access to it.
But the though keeps returning to me : has something dented your self-confidence within this relationship, so you feel so vulnerable ? Maybe attend to that, and work on whatever that is, together, to help you recognize the unimportance of her onions.
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