Our expert says:
Of course you're not wrong to feel this way. You have, unfortunately, created an unnecessarily difficult situation for yourself. I think it is rarely if ever wise to invest in any business without the advice of a lawyer and a legally acknowledged role as an investor, with an agreed plan for you to have shares in the company / business and some role in its governance, as well a spelling out how and when your loan will be repaid.
As it stands, you may be friends, but most of the benefits are his.
It's also not wise to commit yourself to a relationship in which your partner wants to keep you a hidden secret from his family, without resolving whatever issues there might be. A man who feels he needs to hide his partner from his family is not fully adult or independent. Interesting that to open "his" business, he apparently borrowed from you, and not his family.
Having not attended to these basic essential protections, you rendered yourself much less independent that you wished to be.
Be assertive, not aggressive, but ask him to protect your rights and interests. Maybe consult a lawyer about how best to do this.
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