Our expert says:
There's no reason at all why you wouldn't be a great mother. In fact, having sadly learned so much about how bad mothering happens, you could be better able to avoid it than other people. Your boyfriend really should not be interfering in a situation he does not understand. You can tell him that you are pleased he had and has such a good and loving, supportive family, but that this is not possible within your own family, and you don't want to cause more misery by trying to force it to improve, having tried and failed.
A relationship has at least 2 sides, and as your mother apparently can't or won't play her part in reconciliation, you cannot do it alone.
Remind him that neither of you can change history ; what happened in the past, happened. What is important for both of you is to develop and enjoy the present, the relationship the two of you have right now. Do other readers have helpful suggestions to offer ?
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