Our expert says:
Firstly, I'm sorry that someone, I don't know who, has caused needless delays in putting your question to me, so I can answer it.
It is sad, and sadly common, that after a divorce, one of a couple gets mean, vindictive and uses the child(ren) as weapons or bargaining chips in an ongoing war with their former spouse. I think this should be recognized by society and courts as child abuse, and should be penalized.
What's not clear to me from your message is the basis of this situation. You mention a court of law, so I assume there was a case and a formal divorce where the court decided on matters such as custody,visiting / access rights, maintenance, and so on.
What were the terms and conditions laid down there, and is he keeping to the requirements of that set of decisions ? If not, you could return to the court and ask it to enforce the decision it had reached. Such a court is required to consider primarily the best interests of the child(ren), and except if the court found that there was some significant risk to the child from access to you, it should have required that the child should have reasonable access to you, but you need to get good legal advice on this. Insisting that you write-off a large financial debt a court has already decided is due to you, sounds very dodgy.
It may be fortunate that if the initial decisions have already been made by a court, using cheaper facilties such a the Family Advocate may be possible, to enforce those agreements.
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