Being able to get an erection, but not maintain it, can be
frustrating. Your boyfriend might feel like he cannot last as long as you would like, or like there’s a timer counting down as soon as sexual activity
Here are a few tips for understanding some possible
underlying causes, along with some solutions that could help.
There are several reasons why he might find it difficult to
keep an erection during sex. Most people find that they face this question at
some point in their lives.
Most of the time, this is absolutely nothing to worry about.
Losing an erection is very often due to common, everyday factors like:
– e.g. ‘first night nerves’
too much alcohol
side effects of a drug
- too much porn
- performance anxiety longer term (as the issues compounds)
Some people will experience this much more often than
Signs of underlying health problems:
If he regularly loses his erection during sex, it could be
a sign of an underlying health condition. This could be a physical or an
emotional health condition, and may need treatment in the form of medication or
The main physical reasons he might lose his erection during sex are:
It can also be caused by psychological reasons (some as mentioned before):
or mood problems
having sexual desire, or not being aroused
If he's concerned about losing his erections during sex, he should talk
to his doctor for advice or possibly seek counselling.
I know it is a touchy subject, but you do need to talk about it if you are ever going to have a chance of resolving it. Be gentle, supportive and non-judgmental in your approach.