Our expert says:
I can't help wondering why you to live together : is it only about sex ? Though you don't mention sex at all in your message, it sounds as though you don't actually have a clear relationship with each other. You have a relationship, with a set of reasonable expectations, with a guy who actually isn't him, and isn't there ; and he has a relationship with a you who isn't there either. None of your assumptions and expectations seem to match.
What does he get from whatever this thing is he has with you ? Something about it must be convenient, but what ? Do you manage the home, deal with chores and finances ? Ans what actual value to you, is he ?
You seem to have expectations, like fidelity, confiding intimate issues, etc., that would be reasonable with an actual boy-friend, let alone a live-in partner. Heck even just a flat-mater sharer. But he feels none of that could or should apply to him,
Its not clear what he expects of you, except no nagging, and leave him to do as he pleases.
It's not your fault, and blaming yourself doesn't help.
But you're playing cricket while he plays rugby : that's a game of chaos that nobody can win. What is the point of continuing this game ?
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