Our expert says:
Of course, both parents rights to access to a child are indeed important : but even more important is the child's right to access to the parents. And the child has a right to consistent affection and attention from a parent, not an on-again off-again relationship that suits some mysterious purposes of the father ( in this case() but which unwholesomely inflicts serial disappointments on the child. She has a right not to be disappointed at all, let alone repeatedly. I see no reason why she should not share the decision as to whether she wants to hear from the inconsistent father.
It was also right to take the matter to Maintenance Court when he started grumbling about the amount of maintenance he owes : he is free to form new relationships, even to marry again, but only if he takes into account his existing duties in money, time and affection, to his child. She is the innocent party, and should not receive less than she needs because he wants to give some of what he owes her, to someone else. And a court should be well placed to make such a decision objectively.
Yes, clearly your duty is to protect your daughter and her needs. If he and his new wife for some reason of their own want more contact with the child, it makes sense for you to hesitate about this. Apparently, according to you, this waxing and waning of his interest in the child has happened before, relating presumably to events in his own life, and not to her benefit. If they have a good reason for wanting yet another change, they could sure communicate with you, initially, in writing, and you could discuss that issue with your daughter , and respect the decision she has made.
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