Our expert says:
Try also posting this question on the Parenting forum, as this specific forum is not really intended to deal with child discipline problems.
I was going to say "Has it struck you..." but then that seemed too appropriate --- Has it occurred to you that spanking him is using violence to express your frustration and to try to solve a problem --- which is exactly what he is doing, which you complain about ? So your actions contrdict the explanations you have been giving to him ?
You don't say what he is suddenly so demanding about. What has changed in his life and in your household, lately ?
Watch the excellent BBC TV parenting programmes shown in DSTV.
Think about why he does not do this to your husband. What's the significant diference between you, in this regard ? Have you tried simply emphasizing that ANY suuch aggression and screaming will end all discussion on whatever it is he wants, and that you will place him in a quiet room or place for 4 minutes to cool off, and unless he calms down, and apologises ( without head-butting or any other contradictory behaviour ) , he would then be re-placed there for a further 4 minutes.
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