Our expert says:
I think there are a couple of factors at play here. Firstly your daughter has reached a stage in her development where she is going to challenge boundaries and your authority more, which can often lead to more conflict between parents and their teens. With this it is about continuing to ensure the boundaries you think are important are maintained, whilst recognising that you will need to adjust your thinking and approach as your daughter begins to develop emotionally.
It may be worth making contact with her ex-boyfriend's mother and chatting to her to get a sense of the person rather than worrying about her influence without knowing.
At this point in time your daughter may also be thinking more about who she is and where she comes from which will raise issues about her father. If things continue to be difficult perhaps consider counselling for you and your daughter - a really good organisation to consider is FAMSA - check them out at www.famsa.org.za
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