Why is it so difficult for us, as a nation, to set down some simple guidelines? Nothing difficult, nothing that affects anyone's pride or politics – just a few simple concepts that help a society to function on a slow, smooth upward trajectory towards some shared sunlight?
I'm not thinking about thorny land issues, controversial economic policies or perilous cultural questions, just a few universal foundations that would save South Africa billions in healthcare Rands and relieve a lot of suffering.
It isn't hard for me to think of the first one: no sex without consent ever, and no sex with anyone under the age of 16 (even with consent) ever.
I gave myself a spectacular headache thinking about this for hours: how can we find a way through all the hurt and noise to reach an agreement on two fundamental issues that have the potential to sicken our whole nation?