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WE HAD CANCER AND LIVED
Every year an increasing number of South African children are diagnosed with cancer. But now, many more are beating it and it’s no longer a death sentence. That said, it’s still a tough battle – even after you’ve survived it
BY BETTIE KEMP
WHEN Anriëtte van Wyk of Fairland in Johannesburg received the news five years ago her life was turned upside down. Nothing would ever be the same again, not for her or her parents.
She was getting good marks at school and was a highjump champion. But after returning from a school trip the 10-year-old with the long dark hair felt nauseous, listless and tired.
Doctors could find nothing wrong with her but finally her GP sent her to hospital so a gastroenterologist (a specialist in diseases of the stomach and intestines) could do tests.
While on his ward rounds he saw her vomiting heavily. Clearly this wasn’t a simple tummy problem.
An MRI (magnetic resonance imaging) scan confirmed the specialist’s worst fears: Anriëtte had a large tumour deep in her brain. It was a medulla blastoma, a malignant brain tumour that usually originates in the cerebellum, quickly spreads to the rest of the brain and spinal cord and can damage vital areas of the brain.
Diagnosing a brain tumour early is extremely difficult. By the time a child experiences nausea, vomiting, headaches and other symptoms the tumour has usually been growing for an average of five months. Anriëtte had to have an operation immediately. The specialist couldn’t say what her chances of survival were.
Only an operation could show whether the tumour had already penetrated her brain – in which case there would be nothing doctors could do.
‘‘We went with her right up to the theatre doors,’’ Anriëtte’s dad, Gert, says. ‘‘The doctor told us, ‘Say goodbye to her now’. We didn’t know if we’d see her again.’’
The doctors had to work extremely carefully, millimetre
by millimetre, because the growth was against the
brain stem and the area that controls breathing. One tiny
mistake and she could stop breathing and die on the operating
table – or she could end up blind, deaf or paralysed.
‘‘We were so grateful and relieved when it became clear the
operation had gone well,’’ Anriëtte’s mother, Mariëtte, says.
‘‘We thought it was all over and the malignant stuff was all
out. The doctor spoke of some post-op treatment. Little did
we realise we were facing a full year of chemotherapy and
radiation and all their drastic side-effects.’’
Anriëtte’s parents still aren’t sure whether it was the right
decision to make their daughter go through chemotherapy
and radiation. However without these treatments there was a
good chance the tumour would regrow within 18 months
and take her life. ‘‘Your first chance at eradicating it remains
your best,’’ their oncologist insisted. Yet even with the treatments
there was no guarantee the cancer wouldn’t come back.
The family had to face the possibility of terrible loss. One
oncologist didn’t mince words: your child could survive but
be deaf and blind and never be able to go back to school, he
said. And that could easily have been the case.
Irradiating the brain and spinal column of a growing
child can lead to memory, learning and hearing problems
and growth retardation. It can also change the child’s social
and emotional behaviour. But radiation is also one of the best
means of shrinking a tumour and halting its growth.
When Anriëtte went in for the first of her chemo and
radiation treatments Gert pleaded with the doctors, ‘‘Just
make sure my child doesn’t go blind or deaf.’’
He says the doctor spent weeks making meticulous preparations.
He had a protective mask moulded for Anriëtte’s head
and neck so the radiation wouldn’t destroy healthy tissue.
Her treatments became a way of life – three months of
chemo followed by 48 sessions of radiation, then another
three months of chemo . . .
The treatments had the same side-effects: she became tired
and nauseous. The Van Wyks’ GP says he once had to give
Anriëtte an injection on Christmas Day to ease the effects
of the chemo.
Nevertheless, on the way to her sessions at the hospital the
family would chat about ordinary things, just like ordinary
people – discussing the movies they want to watch or Anriëtte’s
favourite videogames. ‘‘For me the worst was being in
hospital,’’ Anriëtte says. ‘‘I missed my friends a lot. But
when you’re that sick you just have to keep believing.”
‘‘The children with cancer who do best are those who stay
positive,’’ says Dr Charmaine Jacobs, a children’s oncologist at
Unitas Hospital in Pretoria. ‘‘It helps the healing.’’
Anriëtte went to school on her good days but mostly the
family helped her keep up with her studies at home. ‘‘Put
your books aside for a while,’’ a doctor once told her. ‘‘The
schoolwork is tiring you too much.”
His words had a major impact – it was as if Anriëtte was
being told she had nothing more to live for. She withdrew
even more and it seemed she’d given up hope.
Then came the turning point. The Reach for a Dream
Foundation asked her about her biggest dream. She had
three, she told them. And all three came true for her – she
received a laptop computer (from the Dream team), a helicopter
ride (arranged by the SAPS) and a skiing holiday in
Italy (from mom and dad).
‘‘She so badly wanted to touch real snow,’’ Gert says. ‘‘She
was playing in the snow when she looked at me and simply
said, ‘Daddy, I want to live’.’’
Perhaps the fulfilment of her dreams helped make up for
the many losses that Anriëtte, like most children who develop
life-threatening illnesses, have had to cope with. ‘‘Children still
have to come to terms with the things they’ve lost long after the
disease has been beaten and those emotional scars remain part
of their lives,’’ clinical psychologist Dr Erika van der Wateren-
Wakeford of Centurion says.
For Anriëtte, who was her school’s victrix ludorum and had
achieved Gauteng colours for high jump, it meant not being able
to take part in her favourite sport because her coordination had
been affected.
She has taken up swimming, for the exercise and because
she enjoys it – but it’s not the same. She used to be part of a
group and when she could no longer take part competitively
she became the outsider, the odd one out, her mom says.
‘‘Children make friends at sport practice and social events.
Anriëtte misses her friends because they’ve moved on without her.’’
‘‘Well, she has also moved on in a sense,’’ Gert says. ‘‘On an
emotional level she’s much more mature than they are. She’s
experienced things none of us have been through. But on a social
level she has been left behind in a way.’’
Anriëtte’s illness has also taught them just how cruel children
can be. ‘‘Parents probably aren’t always aware how their children
behave at school,’’ Mariëtte says. ‘‘Anriëtte told me kids used to
run away from her – just because she was different.
‘‘As a mother you have such a clear picture of your child on
the day everything came to a standstill. You saw the potential.
And now you see how everything has changed. Sometimes
you can’t help thinking, what would she have been like if all
this didn’t happen?’’
‘‘Children who survive cancer literally
get a second chance at life but they have
to learn to live that life all over again,’’
Dr Van der Wateren-Wakeford explains.
‘‘Their entire being is affected. They
look different which affects their selfimage
and self-esteem. They lose some
of their social skills and can become
introverted. These are changes that don’t
disappear overnight.’’
Anriëtte has also had to come to
terms with the fact that her short-term
memory has been affected. But she’s
back at school and doing well – she’s
in Grade 9 and maintains an average
of more than 70 per cent.
In a tall family Anriëtte is the short
one. ‘‘Because of the radiation she has
stopped growing,’’ Gert says, paging
through the 2004 Moments in Time
calendar that depicts cancer patients’
moments of hope. We look at a glossy
black-and-white photograph of Anriëtte
taken just after she’d completed her
treatment. It’s hard to recognise her
in the short, trendy wig.
They all agree her hair was the greatest
loss. Her thick, long tresses were Anriëtte’s
pride and joy. She didn’t ever want to
cut her hair. And then it all fell out.
‘‘She pulled the last bits out herself,’’
Mariëtte says. ‘‘The radiation destroyed
the roots of her hair so it won’t all grow
back again.’’
Anriëtte strokes her hair – the result
of two hair transplants. They plan to
have more done in future.
‘‘But you know what?’’ Gert asks.
‘‘Her hair reminds me of the grace
and mercy we’ve received. It makes me
extremely grateful. If her hair grew back
perhaps we’d forget.’’
There’s a moment of silence before
Mariëtte speaks.
‘‘It’s five years on, the time required
before you’re declared ‘cured’. But you
never know for sure. We’re still tense
before each annual checkup.’’
Still, Anriëtte was pronounced ‘‘clean’’
at her recent five-year check-up so for
all intents and purposes she’s beaten the
disease. Studies show a combination of
surgery, chemo and radiation can ensure
a five-year or longer survival period in
up to 80 per cent of children if a medulla
blastoma is diagnosed early.
Anriëtte has begun developing other
skills. She has painting lessons and does
beadwork. ‘‘I thought I’d like to teach
other kids who’re sick to do beadwork,’’
she says.
Her parents regard this as a huge
step forward – their daughter, who had
become so introverted, is once again
reaching out to others.
She’s becoming part of life again,
emerging from the cocoon they’d spun
around her to protect her from the
outside world.
Anriëtte seems distracted during our photoshoot at the Roodepoort
swimming pool. Afterwards she gets
back into the pool, diving deep down
into the water that seems to envelop
and protect her. When she breaks
the smooth surface her smile is
spontaneous.
Later at Wonderboom Airport the
photographer uses a parachute as a
symbol of the tumbling fall every
young cancer patient has to face.
After the chute is opened and
buckled onto Anriëtte it unexpectedly
balloons in the brisk spring breeze.
She holds on tight as she’s briefly
lifted off the ground.
The photographer raises his
camera, clicks and laughs. ‘‘They’re
certainly not going to drag her back
to Earth any time soon!’’ he says.
10 tips for parents of seriously ill children
- Explain the medical facts in simple language.
- Tell the truth. Kids can sense when you’re lying
or hiding something.
- Be honest about the side-effects of the medication.
Prepare your child for the unpleasantness of
the treatment.
- Don’t brush off questions about pain, illness
and death. Talk about these issues. Acknowledge
your child’s fears and your own feelings
of helplessness.
- Be sympathetic but not too indulgent. A gentle
but firm attitude helps kids feel safe.
- Keep your relationship with your partner as
healthy as possible. You’ll need each other’s
support during this painful time. Consider
joining a support group.
- Let your child still feel like a child: play video
and board games together, build jigsaw puzzles
or do other fun things that don’t require much
moving around.
- Don’t wrap your child in a cocoon – keep her
friends part of her life.
- If someone offers to help, say yes – you can’t
do everything yourself.
- Hold on to your hope and faith.
MORE AND MORE CHILDREN ARE GETTING – AND SURVIVING – CANCER
Every year in South Africa about 600 new cases of cancer in children younger than 15 are recorded
INCREASING NUMBERS of
children are being diagnosed
with cancer. Every year
in SA about 600 new cases
of cancer in children younger
than 15 are recorded.
Yet doctors know about 2 000
children a year develop the
disease. That means about
1 400 aren’t diagnosed or
treated – and die.
The most common
cancers in children are
leukaemia (about 25 per
cent), brain tumours (about
25 per cent), followed by
lymphoma, a kidney cancer
known as Wilms tumour and
cancer of the sympathetic
nervous system known as
neuroblastoma.
Although more cases
are being diagnosed the
survival rate for children
with cancer has dramatically
improved in the
past few years.
Eight in every 10 children
with cancer can now expect
to survive, says Dr Christina
Stefan, children’s oncologist
at the department of
paediatrics and child health
at Tygerberg Hospital, Cape
Town. In 1970 barely three
in 10 would have survived.
Today the survival rate for
children with leukaemia is
85 per cent. In 1969 almost
none survived.
The huge improvement
in survival rates is due
to better procedures for
diagnosing cancer early;
better and more effective
chemotherapy; more accurate
targeting in radiation
treatment so fewer healthy
cells are damaged; and better
combinations of chemo,
radiation and surgery.
Children’s chances of survival
are better than adults’
because the kinds of cancer
they get are mostly those
that develop prenatally and
react well to aggressive,
modern treatments.
This is why it’s so important
to help children come
to terms with their losses
– so they can once again
enjoy a carefree existence.
‘A large part of my job is to help my small patients deal with
loss. After the shock of the diagnosis they’re in such a struggle
for survival they don’t get the chance to come to terms with
everything they’ve had to take in. It causes emotional
wounds that remain long after the disease has
been beaten. Psychotherapy helps them rejoin society and
start blossoming again'- Dr Erika van der Wateren-Wakeford, clinical and child psychologist
RED FLAG
The following symptoms may indicate life-threatening diseases such as cancer.
Take action if your child complains of them. The symptoms are listed according
to the letters of the name of ancient Greek healer SILUAN.
SEEK: Get medical help for symptoms that persist.
EYE: Any change to the eyes or vision – does the child screw up his eyes or see white spots, or is he going blind? Is an eye starting to bulge?
LUMP: A swelling or a bump such as an enlarged gland in the neck, under the arms or in the groin or a larger lump in the stomach that doesn’t go away.
UNEXPLAINED: Any unaccountable symptom such as a fever that has no obvious cause, weight and appetite loss, unusual listlessness, blue patches, bleeds or a rash of tiny red or purple blood spots resembling pinpricks.
ACHING: Pain in a leg, wrist or back when there’s no external sign of injury, or if the child’s bones break easily.
NEUROLOGICAL SIGNS: Headache (especially when it’s accompanied by nausea), problems with balancing, stumbling or a shaky gait, or if the child’s development suddenly starts slowing down or he falls behind at school.
KEEVE IS BACK ON HIS FEET AFTER BONE CANCER
‘‘CANCER is the last thing you think about when you’re 18. I still remember asking the
radiologist if the operation could wait until after the exams and the rugby season.
When he told me I had bone cancer it brought me up short. I ran to the parking lot
and just started crying,’’ recalls Keeve de Villiers (20) of Parktown in Johannesburg.
He’s now a medical student at the University of Cape Town.
After two biopsies, an MRI scan and a sonar scan the diagnosis was confirmed: he
had osteosarcoma. It’s a rare cancer but the most common bone cancer in children
and young people.
Luckily it hadn’t yet spread to his lungs. He started chemotherapy three days after
being diagnosed.
His father, Gerrie de Villiers, former managing director of M-Net, says nothing but
Keeve’s life mattered. ‘‘He wanted to write his exams but I told him to leave everything.
We were going to fight for his life.’’
The department of education later awarded Keeve a matric certificate because of his
above-average academic achievements up to that point.
The disease is physically and emotionally so exhausting it’s easy
to lose your will to live, Keeve says.
‘‘The biggest mistake I made in the beginning was not getting
actively involved in my treatment. The question I kept struggling with
was whether it’s worse to feel you’re dying or just knowing you are. It
was an attitude that just made me even sicker.
‘‘Gradually I started accepting I was ill as well as responsibility for
getting better. Once I’d forced myself to start eating and worked
with a dietician to build up my body I recovered much faster from
the chemo. I started taking an interest in my doctors and the
patients who were undergoing chemo with me.’’
The parts of Keeve’s knee and thigh that were infected by the
cancer were cut away and replaced with a steel prosthesis. Just a
few years ago doctors would have had no choice but to amputate
his leg. He now has a built-up sole in his left shoe because his left
leg is shorter than his right as a result of the operation. He can no
longer walk barefoot or play rugby. ‘‘I would give anything to run
a little or play rugby again,’’he says.
His prosthesis is a daily reminder of the six months in which he
suddenly had to grow up. ‘‘It becomes part of you and you move
on. You have to. But cancer isn’t something you learn to handle
and then overcome. It’s something I’ll carry with me for the rest
of my life. I’ve made my peace with that.’’
Today he values everyday things a great deal more than he
used to. ‘‘Just sitting in the sun or reading a book is something
special. Recently I went on a trip with a few friends to look at
the spring flowers, something I would never have done before.
For me now it’s just about being alive.’’
He has tested negative for cancer for two years. Doctors
believe there’s little chance of osteosarcoma recurring after one
year. After five years the chances of a recurrence are minuscule.
‘‘By the end of the treatment I’d stopped asking why I’d
got sick and started wondering why I’d been given a second
chance. One day I’ll be able to stand on the other side of the hospital
bed and really know how the patient feels.’’– Betina Louw
FOR MORE INFORMATION:
REACH FOR A DREAM FOUNDATION
011-781-0133; www.reachforadream.org.za
CHILDHOOD CANCER
FOUNDATION SA (CHOC)
011-486-1212; www.choc.org.za
CANCER FOUNDATION OF
SA HELPLINE
0800-22-66-22; www.cansa.org.za
YOU Pulse Summer 2007/8
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