Giving up your children after a messy two-year battle with your ex is no easy task, but shows a level of maturity from Brit that we haven’t seen in a long time. Could this mean the pop princess is finally thinking rationally? Brit has been flying solo for the past few days and it seems being in full control of her own affairs without dad Jamie’s help for the first time in months, has proved just how much she has grown.

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Federline delighted
Ex-husband Kevin Federline says he is ‘absolutely delighted’ that she finally agreed to give him sole custody of their two tots Sean Preston and Jayden James. Kevin’s lawyer Mark Vincent Kaplan says Britney’s decision to let go was a big surprise, “Nobody could have anticipated the terms of the events that occurred. This was a two-year journey that will be halted at some point that is good for these children.”

Who can ever forget Brit being hospitalised after refusing to let go of the children for two hours, on national TV? It must’ve been a really painful process for her to understand that she had to let go and her ultimate decision points to some serious mind shifts.

Resident heat psychologist Dr Eddy Wolf says it doesn’t matter what kind of mother you are, your children are always your priority. “For Britney to admit that she can’t be the type of mother she wants to be right now is going against her own instinct. She is sacrificing her own needs for that of her children.”

Custody battle damaging the kids
Friends say Brit has come to realise that her children are happy and stable right now and the fight to have them was actually damaging them.

“It broke her heart because she knew it was the right decision, but she had to make it,” says a close friend. Another friend says that Britney also realises that she is still getting better. “She knows that she can’t provide the support that K-Fed can at the moment.”

Dr Eddie says Britney has become an adult through her children. “For the first time ever, Britney is putting herself and her own needs and wants second. And look how great she looks. It was the right decision. A hard decision, but the right one.” The good news is the contract is not set in stone. Kevin’s lawyer has confirmed that Britney can petition to change the current agreement at any time. So, should she feel she is able to look after the children she can try and do this?

Friends say that while Britney is focusing her energy on her comeback, she is also slowly pushing for more time with the children. “She currently has two days and one overnight sleep, but by the end of the year Brit wants unlimited access to her boys,” reveals a source.

What a tough choice. At 27, Brit doesn’t have much time left to get her fame back. But giving up your children must’ve surely been the toughest decision Brit has ever had to make. And while we feel incredibly heart-sore for the boys and her, we think it was the right move…for now. Perhaps the perfect antidote for the troubled star to bring the true Britney back.

(This is an edited extract of a feature by Jessica Levitt, published in Heat magazine, August 2008. Get more fascinating views and interviews in the latest issue of Heat, on sale now.)

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	Britney Spears 2008/08/06 10:59:23 AM I am doing something I swear I' d never do  responding to something about this girl. When are you people going to realise that this person is empty-headed, stupid, knows nothing about nothing, is a bad role model for all your daughters and is guilty of sluttish behaviour because she has the morals of an alley-cat? Please spare us any, any more information on her as well as the Hiltons and Lohans of this world. Please let them get back into the cess-pools that they climbed out of. - Frank   It must be wonderful to be perfect! 2008/08/06 11:34:23 AM .... and you never made stupid mistakes when you where young? - Joe   I hope that her children forgive her. 2008/08/06 12:36:22 PM I have to say that I doubt her children will ever " get over"  the fact that their mother sold them out, so she could focus on her career. What a dope. They might be better off with their dad, but will they ever get their self esteem back, knowing their mom would rather play than look after them? She is a selfish rat, and should realise you don' t just pop out babies and then ship them off to their dad because you want your life back. - Sarah   GEt a Life 2008/08/06 12:53:22 PM Hey Frank and Sarah, have either of you been addicted to booze and drugs. Got any idea what it does to your life? Got any idea what is like to be in the spotlight all the time, having every aspect of your life thrashed all over the world by A$$holes? If you have, go for it, knock Britney down. But, if you haven' t then just shut up. - THe Grem   Er, actually 2008/08/06 12:57:24 PM yes. Drugs &  alcohol. I was responsible for my own choices, and I hurt a boat load of people. I worked my-|-off to get back into life. What I will say in her defence is that she is constantly in the eye of the media (good friend turned bad) and they highlight every error or slip. very cruel - Sarah   The Grem 2008/08/06 01:43:20 PM No, I have not been addicted to drugs or alcohol. Why must I get into the mud to find out that I can get dirty? I just look at people like you and see another lost soul that OKs everything and all conduct under the label of political correctness. The woman is trash, no other word for it. Sorry. Ask you granny or somebody with good morals, she' ll tell you the same. - Frank   Get a life 2 2008/08/06 02:32:43 PM Sarah, I hope you didn' t find me offensive with my comments. I too have been down the drugs &  Alcohol road and pulled my life back on track. Frank, I am no lost soul who OK' s everything under the label of Political Correctness. I have good morals myself and would ask my granny, but she passed away 30 years ago. I did excuse her behaviour, we must all account for our own mistakes. I merely asked that if you don' t understand what it is like to be an addict, not to comment! - The Grem   Correction on Get a Life 2 2008/08/06 02:41:10 PM My once setence should have read: I did NOT excuse her behaviour.... - The Grem   britney spears 2008/08/06 02:51:58 PM i believe that everyone has their own points and views. true,how can you sell out your own children just to have fun?but heart breaking for the children,who wants to see their parents hooked on booze and drugs half the time.i believe brit is going through hell,she is also only human like the rest of us,everybody makes mistakes on the account of hurt for sum one else,but if we cant forgive each other,who will? - patty   Losers 2008/08/06 03:04:15 PM To all you losers belting each other - stop your Sh!t - this is about britney and not your past mistakes - move on people! - Sido   Sido 2008/08/06 03:11:25 PM Britney thanks you! :) - Anon   Britney Spears 2008/08/06 04:20:16 PM What Britney has done is absolutely good for time being as she has personal issues to resolve and get her life on track. As soon as she is okay I think she has to get her children back as they need their motherly love. - Patience Mmethi   2008/09/02 08:40:31 AM -   Britney 2008/09/11 11:54:16 PM I' m a mom of a 9yr old boy. I too fought for custody, against all odds, lost my home, my car, and my mind in the process and it was no doubt the hardest thing i ever did, BUT i dont agree she shud giv up. I didnt and eventually without money &  without a legal team and an appeal later, i won. I won cos God decided it was the right thing. God gave us the title of Mom, we shudnt waste that. Brit shud keep fighting, her children need a mom who is always there. I will keep praying 4 u Brit. - Shelly - Durban SA   lsvzwarkvkeuqdkbutyt 2008/09/14 11:18:41 PM tcmsrvuujnjrnqwyjfsugdabjumlbl - klcdcw
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