The first thing that comes to mind when one thinks
about the sexual interactions between men and women today
is a scenario quite similar to that of driver education taught in schools.
Drivers Ed is a facility used to teach the inexperienced
drivers how the control a vehicle properly. The scenario is made up of a teacher
(who will represent the press and media), a learner driver (the male of modern
day society…don't get all hot and bothered under the collar about sexual
discrimination, it's just for the purpose of the scenario) and the passengers,
who are the women of modern-day society. The driver receives instruction
by the teacher on how to perform a certain a
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ctivity and what the desired outcome
should be.
Now if you're confused, think about all the articles that
every single men's magazine consists of, such as "Are you the best she ever had"
and "Find her G-Spot tonight". The driver attempts the task of driving the
car. Nothing but silence comes from the back seat should he perform the task
with ultimate precision, yet as soon as he makes a glitch, roars of laughter
will fill the air.
Now the number is up for those passengers in the back
seat, who seem to believe that they are experts in the task, to take the wheel and prove themselves like they have never had to before.
The time has come to stop relying on "him" to perform
and create miracles in bed. It is time for women to do their part.
Here follow a few tips that can move
a woman from the passenger seat into the driver's seat. With the
guidelines and information that follow, women will be able to perform a
few new tricks or understand what her man really is thinking of and what
he's really after.
Confidence The most important asset
a woman can attain is self-confidence. A woman who is confident not only in her
skills and actions, but also in her appearance is a number one turn-on for a man.
The quickest way to turn the heat down in a sexual
relationship is for women to ask, "does my bum look big" or "don't look there,
its gross".
The man that is embarking on a sexual interaction with
you will be doing so because he is attracted to you and to the person who you
are. He will be mature enough to know that not all people look like airbrushed
supermodels. By asking the above questions you are drawing his attention away
from the things he likes about you and drawing his attention to your weak
points. This will not only kill the passion but also show him that he cannot be
happy with you, as you are not happy with yourself.
Confidence should also be about your ability and
willingness to try things that you have never done before. This will allow the
aspect of creativity to enter into your relationship creating not only a greater
bond, but also allowing each partner to understand how the other feels and
thinks.
Instigate the procedures There
is a 90 percent chance that the man in your life is there, because he approached
you and made the first move. The chances are he was the one to move in for the first kiss, and the first one to put through the idea of moving the relationship
to the next level.
There is nothing more of a turn-on for a man than to be approached by his partner and seduced to move the relationship onto that next level.
Now a ground rule must be set in all relationships
between men and women. This ground rule is to do unto others as you would wish others to do unto you. In the proposition of your intentions to your man do not come onto him as easily. Men, like women, don't like to be seen as a piece of meat - well at least
most of the time.
Knowledge The biggest factor that causes one to ponder about all the information given to men is why it
hasn't been given to the women of this world yet.
The majority of women don't know what it takes for them to be satisfied or what they like, so how on earth will your partners know what you want when you don't even know yourself.
Women, do some self
experimentation. It's natural, and if anything else you will gain more
information on what works for you while getting your partner'ss juices going (nothing gets a guy going like a women who's willing to experiment).
Do it like they do it on the Discovery
Channel No I'm not referring to wild monkey love, I'm referring to the factor of inquisitiveness that most women don't wish to
develop.
Why is pornography so popular amongst men and not
women? The answer: For the same reason why boys take apart toasters
and everything else that they can get their hands on. Most men need to
understand how things work, and want to investigate.
Saying that a man's only sexual organ is a penis is like
saying that a women can only derive sexual satisfaction through her breasts and
vagina. Both male and female bodies are huge sexual playgrounds.
Investigate what other areas your partner finds to be a
turn-on when touched, and in what way he likes those areas to be touched.
Find out what way he prefers things to be done and
understand the style that get him going.
Now is the time to stop thinking about yourself and your orgasm and start thinking about him and his orgasm (his thought will thus be on you and your needs - complementing each other is the aim of the game).
Most women feel that men are lucky as they are basically guaranteed an orgasm. However, many men feel that they have been dealt a bad card by having this ability. A man would rather enjoy sex for a longer period of time and have a deeper, fulfilling experience in the search and efforts of himself and his partner to extract that orgasm rather than just counting down the minutes until the inevitable happens.
Take control This comes back to the
self-confidence thing, yet allows you to have a higher understanding of how his
mind is working.
Contrary to popular belief the male of the species does
not need just any sexual interaction to be fulfilled. Just like his female
counterpart, and maybe even more so, the man derives great pleasure from the act
itself, not just having that orgasm.
The act as a whole derives the entire sexual
satisfaction that he will gain for the experience. By taking control you will
move his mind from the duties that have been embedded into his mind and allow
him to enjoy the sexual act in its entirety. - Nicholas Ward
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