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What fuels family murder?

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Family murders: we look at why people commit these deeply disturbing crimes, which have become something of a South African phenomenon.

Profile of a family killer
Family murders – i.e. suicide and taking the rest of the family with you - are nearly always committed by the father. One theory put forward to explain why family murder is particularly common in the Afrikaans population, is because this is traditionally a highly patriarchal culture. The father assumes the role of head of the household, breadwinner and sole “protector” of the family. He often has an inappropriate and exaggerated sense of responsibility.

Such a man is probably used to taking decisions on behalf of the other family members – even to the extreme point of deciding whether they would prefer to live or die.

Out of control
The family murderer often feels out of control and overwhelmed by aspects of his life. Financial difficulties are common and he may feel that he has failed and is letting his family down. There is a strong sense of helplessness and perceived inability to rectify the situation. The pressure can lead an otherwise controlled individual to lose control and become aggressive.

There is an unwillingness to admit that he is not coping. He would rather kill himself than admit that he needs help. The patriarchal man often feels that his family is unable to cope without him and would rather kill them than leave them to fend for themselves.

But what about mothers who commit family murders?
This is a rare occurrence. In such cases it has usually been a single mother who has assumed some of the roles ascribed to the traditional patriarchal father. The same exaggerated sense of responsibility and sense of being overwhelmed by circumstances occur in these situations.

Depression
As with other forms of suicide, depression is often an underlying factor. Although most depressed people are not suicidal, most suicidal people are depressed. Serious depression can be manifested in obvious sadness, but often it is expressed instead as a loss of pleasure or withdrawal from activities that had once been enjoyable. Other symptoms include insomnia or sleeping too much, lethargy, change in appetite and difficulty concentrating – all which make it difficult for the person to function. The person feels hopeless and unable to cope with life.

What are the warning signs of suicide?
According to the Depression and Anxiety Support Group, one should look out for the following signs:

Previous suicide attempts:
Between 20 and 50 percent of people who kill themselves had previously attempted suicide. Those who have made serious suicide attempts are at a much higher risk for actually taking their lives.

Talking about death or suicide:
People who commit suicide often talk about it directly or indirectly. Sometimes those contemplating suicide talk as if they are saying goodbye or going away.

Planning for suicide:
Suicidal individuals often arrange to put their affairs in order. They may give away articles they value, pay off debts or a mortgage on a house, or change a will.

- Ilse Pauw

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