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Ssupport organisations for families where drinking is a problem, have identified certain behavioural patterns in family members of alcoholics.
If you see yourself in some of the characteristics noted below, it may be an idea to go along to one of the support group meetings in your area to get some support and advice.
1. Do you constantly seek approval and affirmation?
2. Do you fail to recognise your accomplishments?
3. Do you fear criticism?
4. Do you overextend yourself?
5. Have you had problems with your own compulsive behaviour?
6. Do you have a need for perfection?
7. Are you uneasy when your life is going smoothly, continually anticipating problems?
8. Do you feel more alive in the midst of a crisis?
9. Do you still feel responsible for others, as you did for the problem drinker in your life?
10. Do you care for others easily, yet find it difficult to care for yourself?
11. Do you isolate yourself from other people?
12. Do you respond with fear to authority figures and angry people?
13. Do you feel that individuals and society in general are taking advantage of you?
14. Do you have trouble with intimate relationships?
15. Do you confuse pity with love, as you did with the problem drinker?
16. Do you attract and/or seek people who tend to be compulsive and abusive?
17. Do you cling to relationships because you are afraid of being alone?
18. Do you mistrust your own feelings and the feelings expressed by others?
19. Do you find it difficult to identify and express your emotions?
20. Do you think parental drinking may have affected you?
If you answered yes to even one of these questions, it may be very useful for you to go along to one of the support group meetings in your area or speak to a teacher or someone you trust for advice.
